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Welcome to what I hope will be SOBRLIFE's evolving blog and forum on addiction recovery poems. As an amateur poet who has walked the road of recovery myself, I'm honored and excited to start off this piece and even put a few verses of my own into the mix. In battling the silent killer of alcohol and drugs, poetry has been a powerful tool in my healing process, offering solace, inspiration, and a means to express the complex emotions that come with addiction and recovery. There are so many things that are hard to say out loud, but that can be captured perfectly with the right words and verses to join them. I hope you find something that speaks to you here, and remember to send in your thoughts, poems, and stories to us at SOBRLIFE any time! The Purpose and Place of Poems About Addiction and Sobriety I will be the first to acknowledge that recovery poetry spans a wide spectrum and isn't easily defined; from raw confessionals to uplifting odes of hope. What these poems usually share are reflections on our resilience, the struggles and darkness of active addiction, and the triumph of reclaiming one's life in ways that would have seemed improbable (at best) during the 'bad old days.' Let's explore some notable works in this genre and reflect on their impact on the mind (and, I would say, on spirituality and the soul). Mary Oliver One of the most renowned poets to tackle the subject of addiction is Mary Oliver. In her poem "The Uses of Sorrow," she writes: "Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this, too, was a gift." While not explicitly about addiction, this poem resonates deeply with many in recovery. It speaks to the transformative power of pain and the unexpected gifts that can arise from our darkest moments. In recovery, we often find that our struggles have given us strength, empathy, and wisdom we might not have gained otherwise. We finally meet our authentic selves when we break the thrall of dependence on substances and embrace our truth. Franz Wright Moving to a more direct confrontation of addiction, we have "Alcohol" by Franz Wright: "You do look a little ill. But we can do something about that, now. Can't we. The fact is you're a shocking wreck. Do you hear me. You aren't all alone. And you could use some help today, packing in the dark, boarding buses north, putting the seat back and grinning with terror flowing over your legs through your fingers and hair..." Wright's poem captures the chaos and desperation of active addiction with vivid, unsettling imagery. It's a stark reminder of where we've been and why we choose recovery every day. Ellen Bass In contrast, poems celebrating recovery often focus on themes of rebirth and rediscovery. Take "The Thing Is" by Ellen Bass: "to love life, to love it even when you have no stomach for it and everything you've held dear crumbles like burnt paper in your hands, your throat filled with the silt of it. When grief sits with you, its tropical heat thickening the air, heavy as water more fit for gills than lungs; when grief weights you down like your own flesh only more of it, an obesity of grief, you think, How can a body withstand this? Then you hold life like a face between your palms, a plain face, no charming smile, no violet eyes, and you say, yes, I will take you I will love you, again." Bass's poem speaks to the courage required to embrace life anew in recovery, even when it feels overwhelming. It's a powerful testament to the daily choice we make to live fully and love deeply, despite our past struggles. Wrestling with whatever particular devil may be talking to me on any given day through words and verse is both a way to find peace and make sense of the world. It allows me to process emotions, celebrate milestones, and connect with others (at least when I push past the fear and dare to share my work!) My Own Verse Here's a short piece I wrote reflecting on my own path: "Broken Vessels" Once shattered, now mended. Beauty crowning what were jagged edges. Each gilded fissure fixed: a story I shuddered to tell before. I am. Imperfect, but stronger For all that I've been beaten down by All this To find out being broken is a blessing. To shine in the spaces Between past faults and the fullness of the present. This poem draws inspiration from the Japanese art of kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold, making it more beautiful than before. It's a metaphor I return to in my reflections and so wanted to write more fully about. At the best of times, poetry in recovery isn't just about personal expression; it's also a powerful tool for building community and fostering understanding. For these reasons, more and more treatment centers and recovery groups incorporate poetry workshops or readings into their programs these days. Amanda Gorman One poem that's often shared in these settings is "The Miracle of Morning" by Amanda Gorman: "We ignite not in the light, but in lack thereof, For it is in loss that we truly learn to love. In this chaos, we will discover clarity. In suffering, we must find solidarity. For it's our grief that gives us our gratitude, Shows us how to find hope, if we ever lose it. So ensure that this ache wasn't endured in vain: Do not ignore the pain. Give it purpose. Use it." While not specifically about addiction, Gorman's words resonate deeply with many of us in the recovery community, myself included. They speak to the transformative power of adversity and the importance of finding meaning. Anonymous For those new to recovery as well, poems can offer comfort and hope during difficult times, times that may seem like they won't ever get better. "One Day at a Time" by Anonymous is a simple yet powerful mantra often recited in recovery circles I have been a part of: "One day at a time-- This is enough. Do not look back And grieve over the past, For it is gone; And do not be troubled about the future, For it has not yet come. Live in the present, draw breath Know in this moment, and every moment: You matter. And make it so beautiful That it will be worth remembering." This stark poem encapsulates a fundamental principle of recovery: focusing on the present moment rather than dwelling on past regrets or future anxieties. Another Little Piece of My Heart As we wrap up this exploration of addiction recovery poems, I'd like to share one final piece. This is a new poem I've written specifically for this blog, inspired by the SOBRLIFE community and the path we are privileged to share: "Sober Creation" In the gallery of days, Each frame is a choice renewed, In sobriety to paint with wild strokes A life once thought lost. Our own. Now it is of the essence To sketch our boundaries firmly, Shade in self-care, too long forgotten. Highlight the joys of presence, Embrace even despair. In the fullness of finding a new path. So lift your brush or pen with purpose, Let gratitude shine through, and guide the light within you. To those still struggling, know that your story isn't over. There's a poem waiting to be written about your triumph, your resilience, your recovery. And to those already on this path, continue to share your verses. Your words may be the lifeline someone else needs to hear to be free. Join the SOBRLIFE Community and Recover Out Loud Thank you for joining me for this poetic interlude. May you find inspiration in the words shared, and may your own story of recovery become a poem (or many poems) that share hope with others. Remember, in the words of Leonard Cohen, "There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." So keep writing, keep recovering, and keep shining your light. Your story matters, and SOBRLIFE is here to support you every step of the way!
Welcome to what I hope will be SOBRLIFE's evolving blog and forum on addiction recovery poems. As an amateur poet who has walked the road of recovery myself, I'm honored and excited to start off this piece and even put a few verses of my own into the mix. In battling the silent killer of alcohol and drugs, poetry has been a powerful tool in my healing process, offering solace, inspiration, and a means to express the complex emotions that come with addiction and recovery. There are so many things that are hard to say out loud, but that can be captured perfectly with the right words and verses to join them. I hope you find something that speaks to you here, and remember to send in your thoughts, poems, and stories to us at SOBRLIFE any time! The Purpose and Place of Poems About Addiction and Sobriety I will be the first to acknowledge that recovery poetry spans a wide spectrum and isn't easily defined; from raw confessionals to uplifting odes of hope. What these poems usually share are reflections on our resilience, the struggles and darkness of active addiction, and the triumph of reclaiming one's life in ways that would have seemed improbable (at best) during the 'bad old days.' Let's explore some notable works in this genre and reflect on their impact on the mind (and, I would say, on spirituality and the soul). Mary Oliver One of the most renowned poets to tackle the subject of addiction is Mary Oliver. In her poem "The Uses of Sorrow," she writes: "Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this, too, was a gift." While not explicitly about addiction, this poem resonates deeply with many in recovery. It speaks to the transformative power of pain and the unexpected gifts that can arise from our darkest moments. In recovery, we often find that our struggles have given us strength, empathy, and wisdom we might not have gained otherwise. We finally meet our authentic selves when we break the thrall of dependence on substances and embrace our truth. Franz Wright Moving to a more direct confrontation of addiction, we have "Alcohol" by Franz Wright: "You do look a little ill. But we can do something about that, now. Can't we. The fact is you're a shocking wreck. Do you hear me. You aren't all alone. And you could use some help today, packing in the dark, boarding buses north, putting the seat back and grinning with terror flowing over your legs through your fingers and hair..." Wright's poem captures the chaos and desperation of active addiction with vivid, unsettling imagery. It's a stark reminder of where we've been and why we choose recovery every day. Ellen Bass In contrast, poems celebrating recovery often focus on themes of rebirth and rediscovery. Take "The Thing Is" by Ellen Bass: "to love life, to love it even when you have no stomach for it and everything you've held dear crumbles like burnt paper in your hands, your throat filled with the silt of it. When grief sits with you, its tropical heat thickening the air, heavy as water more fit for gills than lungs; when grief weights you down like your own flesh only more of it, an obesity of grief, you think, How can a body withstand this? Then you hold life like a face between your palms, a plain face, no charming smile, no violet eyes, and you say, yes, I will take you I will love you, again." Bass's poem speaks to the courage required to embrace life anew in recovery, even when it feels overwhelming. It's a powerful testament to the daily choice we make to live fully and love deeply, despite our past struggles. Wrestling with whatever particular devil may be talking to me on any given day through words and verse is both a way to find peace and make sense of the world. It allows me to process emotions, celebrate milestones, and connect with others (at least when I push past the fear and dare to share my work!) My Own Verse Here's a short piece I wrote reflecting on my own path: "Broken Vessels" Once shattered, now mended. Beauty crowning what were jagged edges. Each gilded fissure fixed: a story I shuddered to tell before. I am. Imperfect, but stronger For all that I've been beaten down by All this To find out being broken is a blessing. To shine in the spaces Between past faults and the fullness of the present. This poem draws inspiration from the Japanese art of kintsugi, where broken pottery is repaired with gold, making it more beautiful than before. It's a metaphor I return to in my reflections and so wanted to write more fully about. At the best of times, poetry in recovery isn't just about personal expression; it's also a powerful tool for building community and fostering understanding. For these reasons, more and more treatment centers and recovery groups incorporate poetry workshops or readings into their programs these days. Amanda Gorman One poem that's often shared in these settings is "The Miracle of Morning" by Amanda Gorman: "We ignite not in the light, but in lack thereof, For it is in loss that we truly learn to love. In this chaos, we will discover clarity. In suffering, we must find solidarity. For it's our grief that gives us our gratitude, Shows us how to find hope, if we ever lose it. So ensure that this ache wasn't endured in vain: Do not ignore the pain. Give it purpose. Use it." While not specifically about addiction, Gorman's words resonate deeply with many of us in the recovery community, myself included. They speak to the transformative power of adversity and the importance of finding meaning. Anonymous For those new to recovery as well, poems can offer comfort and hope during difficult times, times that may seem like they won't ever get better. "One Day at a Time" by Anonymous is a simple yet powerful mantra often recited in recovery circles I have been a part of: "One day at a time-- This is enough. Do not look back And grieve over the past, For it is gone; And do not be troubled about the future, For it has not yet come. Live in the present, draw breath Know in this moment, and every moment: You matter. And make it so beautiful That it will be worth remembering." This stark poem encapsulates a fundamental principle of recovery: focusing on the present moment rather than dwelling on past regrets or future anxieties. Another Little Piece of My Heart As we wrap up this exploration of addiction recovery poems, I'd like to share one final piece. This is a new poem I've written specifically for this blog, inspired by the SOBRLIFE community and the path we are privileged to share: "Sober Creation" In the gallery of days, Each frame is a choice renewed, In sobriety to paint with wild strokes A life once thought lost. Our own. Now it is of the essence To sketch our boundaries firmly, Shade in self-care, too long forgotten. Highlight the joys of presence, Embrace even despair. In the fullness of finding a new path. So lift your brush or pen with purpose, Let gratitude shine through, and guide the light within you. To those still struggling, know that your story isn't over. There's a poem waiting to be written about your triumph, your resilience, your recovery. And to those already on this path, continue to share your verses. Your words may be the lifeline someone else needs to hear to be free. Join the SOBRLIFE Community and Recover Out Loud Thank you for joining me for this poetic interlude. May you find inspiration in the words shared, and may your own story of recovery become a poem (or many poems) that share hope with others. Remember, in the words of Leonard Cohen, "There is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." So keep writing, keep recovering, and keep shining your light. Your story matters, and SOBRLIFE is here to support you every step of the way!
Taking Stock of Intimacy and Sex in Our Lives Before Sobriety Welcome to all in the sober community, our SOBRLIFE friends and family (and any 'normies' too) interested in a topic that attracts a lot of attention, and yes, anxiety as well. And if you’re reading this you’re probably curious about or thinking about doing the AA sex inventory process. I’ve been in recovery for over 10 years and this was a big one for me, so I’m happy to share my experience with you, plus a worksheet our team here created to help things go more smoothly. What is the AA Sex Inventory? First off, let’s define this form of inventory. As you likely are aware, it is part of the Fourth Step in the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, which says: “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” This step covers all of our lives but the sex inventory focuses on our sexual history and behavior. The fourth step of inventory is a thorough examination of our sexual conduct and relationships, to be honest, and to look within to grow spiritually in recovery and to align our actions with a higher power. Now you’re probably thinking: “Why in the world do I need to go into my sex life to stay sober?” I thought the same thing when I first came across this part of the program. But as I’ve learned on my journey our sexual behavior and relationships are often tied to our addiction. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous (2001, 4th edition, Chapter 5) says on page 69: “We reviewed our own conduct over the years past. Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate? Whom had we hurt? Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion, or bitterness? Where were we at fault, what should we have done instead? We got this all down on paper and looked at it.” Why is the Sex Inventory Important? You’re probably wondering why we need to go into our sexual past and behavior. Here’s a quick breakdown of why we conduct an inventory of our intimate relationships: Uncover behavior patterns: Often our sexual behavior is tied to our addiction in ways we don’t even realize. By looking back we can identify behavior patterns that are holding us back in recovery. Identifying destructive patterns can prevent us from repeating harmful behavior in the future. Address shame and guilt: We carry a lot of shame and guilt around our sexual past. The inventory process helps us face those feelings and heal. Better relationships: By understanding our past behavior and motivations we can work towards healthier relationships in the future. Honesty: The inventory process requires complete honesty with ourselves which is key to long-term recovery. And honesty, along with open-mindedness and willingness, are pillars of AA as a whole, and working a solid program on an individual basis as well. Looking at Sexual Conduct in My Life Let's be clear: when I first started my sex inventory I was scared. I mean who wants to look that closely at their past mistakes and failures? However, my sponsor told me to push through the discomfort and reminded me growth happens outside our comfort zone, and I'll give credit where it is due, he was right on that. I sat down with a lined notebook, feeling a mix of anxiety and determination, thinking it would be a quick and dirty list. Then, as I started writing I was surprised by how much I had buried or forgotten. There were relationships I had sabotaged, people I had hurt, and times I had used sex to numb my feelings or boost my ego. Remember: it is not about judging anyone’s sexual conduct and behavior but our own. It wasn’t easy but with each page I wrote I felt a little lighter. I was finally facing the truth about my past behavior and identifying my defects of character and in doing so I was taking the first step to changing them. I had not written long, and it wasn't like I was writing poems or anything detailed, but a load was lifted still. The Process: How to do the Fourth Step Inventory Now let’s get into the how-to. Remember this is a personal process and there’s no one right way to do it. But here’s what I found helpful: Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Get a notebook or open a new document on your computer. Start by listing all your sexual relationships and encounters. Be thorough and honest. For each item on your list ask yourself: Was I selfish or dishonest in this situation? Did I manipulate or use this person? Did I hurt or harm anyone (including myself)? Was I faithful and considerate? Was I driven by fear, self-deception, or self-seeking? Download our Worksheet for the Sex Inventory Process Here Hopefully, all these questions have begun to show just how doing a relationship inventory is key to looking at our behavior in intimate and romantic relationships. It helps us identify patterns of behavior that can lead to personal growth and better relationships, not to mention better, well, sex in recovery. Look for patterns in your behavior. Are there common themes or motivations? Be honest with yourself. Were there times you used sex to avoid feelings or problems? How was your sexual behavior tied to your drinking or drug use? Download Our AA Sex Inventory Worksheet Remember the goal isn’t to beat yourself up or dwell on past mistakes. It’s about getting clarity and understanding so you can move forward in your recovery. Sex Inventory Challenges and How to Overcome Them Let’s be real once again: this process isn’t easy. Here are some common challenges you might face and how to deal with them: Shame and guilt: It’s normal to feel ashamed or guilty when looking at past behavior. Remember you’re doing this to heal and grow not to punish yourself. Be kind to yourself throughout this process. Fear of judgment: You might worry what others will think if they knew your past. Remember this inventory is for you, not anyone else. You don’t have to share anything you’re not comfortable with. Difficulty remembering: If you can’t remember everything that’s okay. Just be as honest and thorough as you can with what you do remember. Feeling overwhelmed: If it feels too much to handle break it down into smaller chunks. You don’t have to do it all in one sitting. Triggered memories: Sometimes looking back can bring up painful memories or trauma. If this happens don’t hesitate to reach out to your sponsor or a therapist for support. The Benefits: What I’ve Gained Now I know I’ve talked a lot about the challenges of this process. But I want to emphasize it’s also very rewarding. Here are some of the benefits I’ve experienced: Greater self-awareness: The inventory process helped me know myself better, including my motivations and triggers. Better relationships: By addressing my past behavior I’ve been able to build healthier more honest relationships in recovery. Release from shame: Facing my past head-on allowed me to let go of a lot of shame I had been carrying and paved the way for a healthier future sex life. Better emotional regulation: Understanding the link between my sexual behavior and my emotions has helped me develop healthier coping mechanisms. Having a sound ideal can lead to healthier interactions and emotional healing. Stronger recovery: This process deepened my commitment to recovery and helped me identify where I needed to focus my efforts. Moving Forward: What Comes After the Inventory for Your Future Sex Life You’ve completed your sex inventory that’s a big deal but it’s not the end of the process. Here’s what comes next: Share with your sponsor: In Step Five you’ll share your inventory with your sponsor or another trusted person. This can be scary but it’s part of the healing process and helps you bring your character defects to your higher power. Make amends: Steps Eight and Nine involve making a list of people you’ve harmed and making amends where possible. This might include some of the people you identified in your sex inventory. Continue to practice honesty: Use what you’ve learned to continue practicing honesty in your relationships and sexual behavior. Defining a ‘sex ideal’ is key to understanding how to pursue healthier more fulfilling relationships moving forward. Seek additional support if needed: If your inventory has brought up issues you need additional help with consider seeking therapy or joining a support group focused on healthy relationships and sexuality. Practice gratitude: Be grateful for the growth and healing this process has brought you. It’s not easy but it’s a journey that can lead to big transformation. Becoming Part of the Recover Out Loud Community Just like making amends in AA, the sex inventory is a hard but very valuable part of getting sober. It’s an opportunity for deep self-reflection, healing, and growth, at least it was for me and many of the men and women I know who have done a thorough job on this. Remember you’re not alone. Reach out to your sponsor, others in the AA community, or a trustworthy mental health professional if you need support. As you do this process be patient and kind to yourself. Recovery is a path, not a destination; and every inch forward you take gets you closer to the life you want to live. Your future self will thank you for doing this work, no matter how tough it can seem in the present at times. Join Us in Living the SOBRLIFE and Shatter the Stigma And, as a regular contributor to SOBRLIFE, I encourage you to write us anytime with your thoughts and questions about all topics related to the recovery process and to getting and staying, sober. And we're always looking for new writers to send in their thoughts (and articles too) that the recovery community needs to hear! Stay strong, stay honest, and keep moving forward on your path to recovery. You're worth it!
Taking Stock of Intimacy and Sex in Our Lives Before Sobriety Welcome to all in the sober community, our SOBRLIFE friends and family (and any 'normies' too) interested in a topic that attracts a lot of attention, and yes, anxiety as well. And if you’re reading this you’re probably curious about or thinking about doing the AA sex inventory process. I’ve been in recovery for over 10 years and this was a big one for me, so I’m happy to share my experience with you, plus a worksheet our team here created to help things go more smoothly. What is the AA Sex Inventory? First off, let’s define this form of inventory. As you likely are aware, it is part of the Fourth Step in the Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, which says: “Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.” This step covers all of our lives but the sex inventory focuses on our sexual history and behavior. The fourth step of inventory is a thorough examination of our sexual conduct and relationships, to be honest, and to look within to grow spiritually in recovery and to align our actions with a higher power. Now you’re probably thinking: “Why in the world do I need to go into my sex life to stay sober?” I thought the same thing when I first came across this part of the program. But as I’ve learned on my journey our sexual behavior and relationships are often tied to our addiction. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous (2001, 4th edition, Chapter 5) says on page 69: “We reviewed our own conduct over the years past. Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate? Whom had we hurt? Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy, suspicion, or bitterness? Where were we at fault, what should we have done instead? We got this all down on paper and looked at it.” Why is the Sex Inventory Important? You’re probably wondering why we need to go into our sexual past and behavior. Here’s a quick breakdown of why we conduct an inventory of our intimate relationships: Uncover behavior patterns: Often our sexual behavior is tied to our addiction in ways we don’t even realize. By looking back we can identify behavior patterns that are holding us back in recovery. Identifying destructive patterns can prevent us from repeating harmful behavior in the future. Address shame and guilt: We carry a lot of shame and guilt around our sexual past. The inventory process helps us face those feelings and heal. Better relationships: By understanding our past behavior and motivations we can work towards healthier relationships in the future. Honesty: The inventory process requires complete honesty with ourselves which is key to long-term recovery. And honesty, along with open-mindedness and willingness, are pillars of AA as a whole, and working a solid program on an individual basis as well. Looking at Sexual Conduct in My Life Let's be clear: when I first started my sex inventory I was scared. I mean who wants to look that closely at their past mistakes and failures? However, my sponsor told me to push through the discomfort and reminded me growth happens outside our comfort zone, and I'll give credit where it is due, he was right on that. I sat down with a lined notebook, feeling a mix of anxiety and determination, thinking it would be a quick and dirty list. Then, as I started writing I was surprised by how much I had buried or forgotten. There were relationships I had sabotaged, people I had hurt, and times I had used sex to numb my feelings or boost my ego. Remember: it is not about judging anyone’s sexual conduct and behavior but our own. It wasn’t easy but with each page I wrote I felt a little lighter. I was finally facing the truth about my past behavior and identifying my defects of character and in doing so I was taking the first step to changing them. I had not written long, and it wasn't like I was writing poems or anything detailed, but a load was lifted still. The Process: How to do the Fourth Step Inventory Now let’s get into the how-to. Remember this is a personal process and there’s no one right way to do it. But here’s what I found helpful: Find a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed. Get a notebook or open a new document on your computer. Start by listing all your sexual relationships and encounters. Be thorough and honest. For each item on your list ask yourself: Was I selfish or dishonest in this situation? Did I manipulate or use this person? Did I hurt or harm anyone (including myself)? Was I faithful and considerate? Was I driven by fear, self-deception, or self-seeking? Download our Worksheet for the Sex Inventory Process Here Hopefully, all these questions have begun to show just how doing a relationship inventory is key to looking at our behavior in intimate and romantic relationships. It helps us identify patterns of behavior that can lead to personal growth and better relationships, not to mention better, well, sex in recovery. Look for patterns in your behavior. Are there common themes or motivations? Be honest with yourself. Were there times you used sex to avoid feelings or problems? How was your sexual behavior tied to your drinking or drug use? Download Our AA Sex Inventory Worksheet Remember the goal isn’t to beat yourself up or dwell on past mistakes. It’s about getting clarity and understanding so you can move forward in your recovery. Sex Inventory Challenges and How to Overcome Them Let’s be real once again: this process isn’t easy. Here are some common challenges you might face and how to deal with them: Shame and guilt: It’s normal to feel ashamed or guilty when looking at past behavior. Remember you’re doing this to heal and grow not to punish yourself. Be kind to yourself throughout this process. Fear of judgment: You might worry what others will think if they knew your past. Remember this inventory is for you, not anyone else. You don’t have to share anything you’re not comfortable with. Difficulty remembering: If you can’t remember everything that’s okay. Just be as honest and thorough as you can with what you do remember. Feeling overwhelmed: If it feels too much to handle break it down into smaller chunks. You don’t have to do it all in one sitting. Triggered memories: Sometimes looking back can bring up painful memories or trauma. If this happens don’t hesitate to reach out to your sponsor or a therapist for support. The Benefits: What I’ve Gained Now I know I’ve talked a lot about the challenges of this process. But I want to emphasize it’s also very rewarding. Here are some of the benefits I’ve experienced: Greater self-awareness: The inventory process helped me know myself better, including my motivations and triggers. Better relationships: By addressing my past behavior I’ve been able to build healthier more honest relationships in recovery. Release from shame: Facing my past head-on allowed me to let go of a lot of shame I had been carrying and paved the way for a healthier future sex life. Better emotional regulation: Understanding the link between my sexual behavior and my emotions has helped me develop healthier coping mechanisms. Having a sound ideal can lead to healthier interactions and emotional healing. Stronger recovery: This process deepened my commitment to recovery and helped me identify where I needed to focus my efforts. Moving Forward: What Comes After the Inventory for Your Future Sex Life You’ve completed your sex inventory that’s a big deal but it’s not the end of the process. Here’s what comes next: Share with your sponsor: In Step Five you’ll share your inventory with your sponsor or another trusted person. This can be scary but it’s part of the healing process and helps you bring your character defects to your higher power. Make amends: Steps Eight and Nine involve making a list of people you’ve harmed and making amends where possible. This might include some of the people you identified in your sex inventory. Continue to practice honesty: Use what you’ve learned to continue practicing honesty in your relationships and sexual behavior. Defining a ‘sex ideal’ is key to understanding how to pursue healthier more fulfilling relationships moving forward. Seek additional support if needed: If your inventory has brought up issues you need additional help with consider seeking therapy or joining a support group focused on healthy relationships and sexuality. Practice gratitude: Be grateful for the growth and healing this process has brought you. It’s not easy but it’s a journey that can lead to big transformation. Becoming Part of the Recover Out Loud Community Just like making amends in AA, the sex inventory is a hard but very valuable part of getting sober. It’s an opportunity for deep self-reflection, healing, and growth, at least it was for me and many of the men and women I know who have done a thorough job on this. Remember you’re not alone. Reach out to your sponsor, others in the AA community, or a trustworthy mental health professional if you need support. As you do this process be patient and kind to yourself. Recovery is a path, not a destination; and every inch forward you take gets you closer to the life you want to live. Your future self will thank you for doing this work, no matter how tough it can seem in the present at times. Join Us in Living the SOBRLIFE and Shatter the Stigma And, as a regular contributor to SOBRLIFE, I encourage you to write us anytime with your thoughts and questions about all topics related to the recovery process and to getting and staying, sober. And we're always looking for new writers to send in their thoughts (and articles too) that the recovery community needs to hear! Stay strong, stay honest, and keep moving forward on your path to recovery. You're worth it!
A Roadmap for Becoming Effective Sober Companions Today the SOBRLIFE topic of choice is for those want to talk about a key role in the addiction recovery world: the sober companion. If you are seeking answers on how to become a sober companion, you’re in the right place. So let’s get into what it takes to become a sober companion and how you can really make a difference in people’s lives. What is a Sober Companion? First things first, let’s define what a sober companion actually does. A sober companion, also known in some circles as a recovery coach or sober coach, is a professional who provides one-on-one, intensive support to individuals in early recovery from addiction. Sober companions offer their clients ways to stay sober and navigate the challenges of daily life without using. Unlike sponsors or therapists, sober companions work with clients 24/7, sometimes even living with them for a while in some cases. As companions in sobriety, you are there to offer emotional support, practical guidance, and a watchful eye to prevent relapse. Why Do People Hire Sober Companions? The sober companion role is key in the early stages of the recovery process. Sober companions help their clients maintain sobriety by assisting them through the early phases of recovery, guiding them in implementing coping strategies, and supporting them in establishing healthy routines to prevent relapse. Early sobriety is a very vulnerable time, full of triggers and temptations. Having a dedicated support person can make all the difference between recovery and relapse. In our experiences with the recovery community, the SOBRLIFE team has often seen how sober companions provide a bridge between addiction treatment and independent living. In this role, you can help clients apply the tools they learned in rehab to real life, and build confidence and resilience along the way. Skills and Qualities Needed for a Solid Sober Coach or Companion Sober companions are not always (or often) clinical professionals, but to be an effective sober companion you’ll need to develop the following skills and practices: Empathy and compassion: You need to be able to connect with clients on a deep level and really get their struggles. Patience: Recovery is not linear and setbacks are common. You’ll need to stay calm and supportive through the ups and downs. Boundaries: You’ll form close relationships with clients but maintaining professional boundaries is key. Knowledge of addiction and recovery: A solid understanding of addiction science, recovery principles, and treatment modalities is required. Crisis management: You need to be able to handle emergencies and high-stress situations. Communication skills: Clear communication with clients, their families, and other professionals is essential. Practical assistance: Providing hands-on help with managing daily activities, navigating schedules, and attending important appointments to support clients during early recovery. Life skills: Helping clients develop essential life skills such as stress management, effective communication, and problem-solving is crucial for staying sober and navigating life’s challenges. Flexibility: Every client is unique and you’ll need to adapt your approach to their individual needs. Self-care: This work can be emotionally demanding so taking care of your own mental health is vital. Education and Training in Addiction Recovery While there is no certification for sober companions, here are a few ways to prepare for this career: Addiction Studies: Consider getting a degree or certificate in addiction studies or a related field like psychology or social work. Recovery Coach Training: Many organizations offer recovery coach training programs which can give you valuable skills and knowledge. Certified Addiction Professional: Some states offer certification for addiction professionals which can add to your credibility. First Aid and CPR: These certifications are often required and can be lifesaving in an emergency. Therapy Sessions: Ensure clients attend therapy sessions by offering transportation and emotional support during this critical time. Continuing Education: Stay current with the latest research and best practices in recovery through workshops, conferences, and online courses. Is Having Personal Experiences With Addiction Required? Many sober companions have personal experience with addiction and recovery. If that’s you, that can be a big asset in working with clients. But you need to have significant clean time (usually at least two years) and a stable recovery before you can take on this role. If you don’t have personal experience with addiction, that’s okay too. What’s most important is that you can empathize, support, and guide others through their recovery. Getting Started as a Sober Companion Once you have the skills and knowledge, here are the steps to get started as a sober companion: Get Experience: Start by volunteering at recovery centers or working in treatment facilities to get hands-on experience. Network: Connect with professionals in the addiction recovery field, therapists, treatment centers, and interventionists. Join Professional Organizations: Organizations like the Association of Intervention Specialists can provide resources and networking opportunities. Do a Sober Companion Program: Do a sober companion program to understand the full role of a sober companion. These programs emphasize multifaceted support in the early stages of recovery, emotional support, teaching accountability, preventing relapse, instilling a healthy lifestyle and crisis intervention. Develop Your Brand: Create a professional website and social media presence to market your services. Specialize: You may want to focus on a specific population (e.g. executives, athletes or young adults) or type of addiction. Liability Insurance: Protect yourself professionally by getting the right insurance coverage for rehab and recovery support pros. Life as a Sober Companion So what does a typical day look like for a sober companion? The truth is, there is no such thing as a typical day in this job. Your schedule and responsibilities will vary greatly depending on your client’s needs. As you might know from your own experiences, or seeing a loved one seek sobriety, those going through detox and rehabilitation face numerous challenges related to returning to substance abuse. Sober companions play a crucial role in providing guidance, support, and strategies to overcome addiction and maintain long-term sobriety. You may start your day by helping your client plan their day, making sure they get to appointments or meetings. You may also accompany them to work, social events, or family gatherings, providing support and helping them navigate triggers. Managing the Daily Details to Support Client Recovery Practical support is a big part of the job, meaning tasks like scheduling, transportation, and guiding healthy lifestyle choices. Throughout the day you’ll be having conversations about recovery, processing emotions, and teaching coping skills. You may help with practical tasks like grocery shopping or job hunting, always with the goal of building independence. In the evening you may attend a support group with your client or help them wind down with healthy relaxation techniques. If you’re living with the client you’ll need to be available overnight in case of emergencies or moments of crisis. And making sure clients get to therapy is key to their sobriety and recovery. The Challenges and Benefits of a Sober Coach Being a sober companion isn’t without its challenges. The work can be emotionally demanding and sometimes physically tough. You’ll face resistance from clients, setbacks, and difficult family dynamics. Sober coaches (also known as recovery coaches), provide less intensive, recurring support during the later stages of recovery, focusing on motivational guidance and life skills. But the benefits are huge. There’s nothing like the feeling of seeing a client grow in their recovery, rebuild relationships, and find their passion for life again. Working with family members can even enhance this process as they are key to establishing healthy routines and navigating the post-treatment life. You’ll form deep connections and know you’re making a real difference in someone’s life. A Sober Companion's Code of Ethics As a sober companion, you’ll be privy to sensitive information and in positions of trust. You must maintain high ethical standards at all times. This means: Confidentiality: Respect your client’s privacy and only share information with authorized people. Professional Boundaries: No dual relationships and clear professional boundaries. Scope of Practice: Know your limits and refer clients to other professionals when needed. Continuing Care: Work with your client’s treatment team for comprehensive care. Self-Disclosure: Be mindful of what and when you share personal information. The Future of Sober Companionship As awareness of addiction and the importance of long-term recovery support grows the demand for sober companions will increase. We’re also seeing some exciting developments in the field like the use of technology to support and monitor progress, with the Sober Network leading the way! There’s also a growing recognition of the need for culturally competent care so there are opportunities for sober companions to work with diverse populations. Is Helping Others Achieve Long-Term Recovery Your Calling? Being a sober companion is a tough but amazing career. It requires a unique combination of personal qualities, professional skills, and ongoing learning. If you love helping others and are committed to the principles of recovery this could be the job for you. Remember your work as a sober companion is also a part of your personal growth. Stay open to learning from your clients, colleagues, and experiences. Have your own support network and practice self-care regularly. Join the SOBRLIFE Movement and Recover Out Loud At SOBRLIFE we’re always excited to have new professionals join the field, as well as encouraging all to join us in inspiring others by choosing to 'recover out loud.' If you’re considering becoming a sober companion we also encourage you to reach out to experienced professionals, attend training programs, and maybe even shadow a sober companion to get a feel for the work. The road to recovery is never easy, but with dedicated sober companions by their sides in the early going, many people find the added strength and support they need to build lasting sobriety. By choosing this path you can be that support and help someone to change their lives in transformative and inspiring ways. It’s a big responsibility and a privilege – one we can say from experience is life-changing!
A Roadmap for Becoming Effective Sober Companions Today the SOBRLIFE topic of choice is for those want to talk about a key role in the addiction recovery world: the sober companion. If you are seeking answers on how to become a sober companion, you’re in the right place. So let’s get into what it takes to become a sober companion and how you can really make a difference in people’s lives. What is a Sober Companion? First things first, let’s define what a sober companion actually does. A sober companion, also known in some circles as a recovery coach or sober coach, is a professional who provides one-on-one, intensive support to individuals in early recovery from addiction. Sober companions offer their clients ways to stay sober and navigate the challenges of daily life without using. Unlike sponsors or therapists, sober companions work with clients 24/7, sometimes even living with them for a while in some cases. As companions in sobriety, you are there to offer emotional support, practical guidance, and a watchful eye to prevent relapse. Why Do People Hire Sober Companions? The sober companion role is key in the early stages of the recovery process. Sober companions help their clients maintain sobriety by assisting them through the early phases of recovery, guiding them in implementing coping strategies, and supporting them in establishing healthy routines to prevent relapse. Early sobriety is a very vulnerable time, full of triggers and temptations. Having a dedicated support person can make all the difference between recovery and relapse. In our experiences with the recovery community, the SOBRLIFE team has often seen how sober companions provide a bridge between addiction treatment and independent living. In this role, you can help clients apply the tools they learned in rehab to real life, and build confidence and resilience along the way. Skills and Qualities Needed for a Solid Sober Coach or Companion Sober companions are not always (or often) clinical professionals, but to be an effective sober companion you’ll need to develop the following skills and practices: Empathy and compassion: You need to be able to connect with clients on a deep level and really get their struggles. Patience: Recovery is not linear and setbacks are common. You’ll need to stay calm and supportive through the ups and downs. Boundaries: You’ll form close relationships with clients but maintaining professional boundaries is key. Knowledge of addiction and recovery: A solid understanding of addiction science, recovery principles, and treatment modalities is required. Crisis management: You need to be able to handle emergencies and high-stress situations. Communication skills: Clear communication with clients, their families, and other professionals is essential. Practical assistance: Providing hands-on help with managing daily activities, navigating schedules, and attending important appointments to support clients during early recovery. Life skills: Helping clients develop essential life skills such as stress management, effective communication, and problem-solving is crucial for staying sober and navigating life’s challenges. Flexibility: Every client is unique and you’ll need to adapt your approach to their individual needs. Self-care: This work can be emotionally demanding so taking care of your own mental health is vital. Education and Training in Addiction Recovery While there is no certification for sober companions, here are a few ways to prepare for this career: Addiction Studies: Consider getting a degree or certificate in addiction studies or a related field like psychology or social work. Recovery Coach Training: Many organizations offer recovery coach training programs which can give you valuable skills and knowledge. Certified Addiction Professional: Some states offer certification for addiction professionals which can add to your credibility. First Aid and CPR: These certifications are often required and can be lifesaving in an emergency. Therapy Sessions: Ensure clients attend therapy sessions by offering transportation and emotional support during this critical time. Continuing Education: Stay current with the latest research and best practices in recovery through workshops, conferences, and online courses. Is Having Personal Experiences With Addiction Required? Many sober companions have personal experience with addiction and recovery. If that’s you, that can be a big asset in working with clients. But you need to have significant clean time (usually at least two years) and a stable recovery before you can take on this role. If you don’t have personal experience with addiction, that’s okay too. What’s most important is that you can empathize, support, and guide others through their recovery. Getting Started as a Sober Companion Once you have the skills and knowledge, here are the steps to get started as a sober companion: Get Experience: Start by volunteering at recovery centers or working in treatment facilities to get hands-on experience. Network: Connect with professionals in the addiction recovery field, therapists, treatment centers, and interventionists. Join Professional Organizations: Organizations like the Association of Intervention Specialists can provide resources and networking opportunities. Do a Sober Companion Program: Do a sober companion program to understand the full role of a sober companion. These programs emphasize multifaceted support in the early stages of recovery, emotional support, teaching accountability, preventing relapse, instilling a healthy lifestyle and crisis intervention. Develop Your Brand: Create a professional website and social media presence to market your services. Specialize: You may want to focus on a specific population (e.g. executives, athletes or young adults) or type of addiction. Liability Insurance: Protect yourself professionally by getting the right insurance coverage for rehab and recovery support pros. Life as a Sober Companion So what does a typical day look like for a sober companion? The truth is, there is no such thing as a typical day in this job. Your schedule and responsibilities will vary greatly depending on your client’s needs. As you might know from your own experiences, or seeing a loved one seek sobriety, those going through detox and rehabilitation face numerous challenges related to returning to substance abuse. Sober companions play a crucial role in providing guidance, support, and strategies to overcome addiction and maintain long-term sobriety. You may start your day by helping your client plan their day, making sure they get to appointments or meetings. You may also accompany them to work, social events, or family gatherings, providing support and helping them navigate triggers. Managing the Daily Details to Support Client Recovery Practical support is a big part of the job, meaning tasks like scheduling, transportation, and guiding healthy lifestyle choices. Throughout the day you’ll be having conversations about recovery, processing emotions, and teaching coping skills. You may help with practical tasks like grocery shopping or job hunting, always with the goal of building independence. In the evening you may attend a support group with your client or help them wind down with healthy relaxation techniques. If you’re living with the client you’ll need to be available overnight in case of emergencies or moments of crisis. And making sure clients get to therapy is key to their sobriety and recovery. The Challenges and Benefits of a Sober Coach Being a sober companion isn’t without its challenges. The work can be emotionally demanding and sometimes physically tough. You’ll face resistance from clients, setbacks, and difficult family dynamics. Sober coaches (also known as recovery coaches), provide less intensive, recurring support during the later stages of recovery, focusing on motivational guidance and life skills. But the benefits are huge. There’s nothing like the feeling of seeing a client grow in their recovery, rebuild relationships, and find their passion for life again. Working with family members can even enhance this process as they are key to establishing healthy routines and navigating the post-treatment life. You’ll form deep connections and know you’re making a real difference in someone’s life. A Sober Companion's Code of Ethics As a sober companion, you’ll be privy to sensitive information and in positions of trust. You must maintain high ethical standards at all times. This means: Confidentiality: Respect your client’s privacy and only share information with authorized people. Professional Boundaries: No dual relationships and clear professional boundaries. Scope of Practice: Know your limits and refer clients to other professionals when needed. Continuing Care: Work with your client’s treatment team for comprehensive care. Self-Disclosure: Be mindful of what and when you share personal information. The Future of Sober Companionship As awareness of addiction and the importance of long-term recovery support grows the demand for sober companions will increase. We’re also seeing some exciting developments in the field like the use of technology to support and monitor progress, with the Sober Network leading the way! There’s also a growing recognition of the need for culturally competent care so there are opportunities for sober companions to work with diverse populations. Is Helping Others Achieve Long-Term Recovery Your Calling? Being a sober companion is a tough but amazing career. It requires a unique combination of personal qualities, professional skills, and ongoing learning. If you love helping others and are committed to the principles of recovery this could be the job for you. Remember your work as a sober companion is also a part of your personal growth. Stay open to learning from your clients, colleagues, and experiences. Have your own support network and practice self-care regularly. Join the SOBRLIFE Movement and Recover Out Loud At SOBRLIFE we’re always excited to have new professionals join the field, as well as encouraging all to join us in inspiring others by choosing to 'recover out loud.' If you’re considering becoming a sober companion we also encourage you to reach out to experienced professionals, attend training programs, and maybe even shadow a sober companion to get a feel for the work. The road to recovery is never easy, but with dedicated sober companions by their sides in the early going, many people find the added strength and support they need to build lasting sobriety. By choosing this path you can be that support and help someone to change their lives in transformative and inspiring ways. It’s a big responsibility and a privilege – one we can say from experience is life-changing!
Getting Started with Step 3 and Diving Into Action Since 1935, Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) has been a lifeline for millions of people struggling with alcoholism. At the heart of AA’s program are the 12 Steps, a set of principles to help us get sober and live a happy, sober life. Among those steps, Step 3 is a big one, a turning point in the journey. Step 3 asks us to make a conscious decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of a higher power, as we understand it. This step is key because it bridges the gap between acknowledging our powerlessness over alcohol (Steps 1 & 2) and taking action towards recovery (Steps 4-12). Half measures don’t work here; full commitment to spiritual growth and the 12 step process is required for real progress. In this new SOBRLIFE resource, we’ll dive into Step 3, what it means and how to work through it with the help of our AA Step Three worksheet. Whether you’re new to AA or looking to go deeper into the program, this guide will give you valuable information and practical tools for your journey to sobriety. What is Step 3? Step 3 of AA says: “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to God as we understood Him.” This step seems simple but has many layers for those in recovery. At its heart, the Third Step is about surrender as a path to a better life. It acknowledges that we can’t manage our addiction through willpower alone. Instead it suggests a complete 180: we turn our lives and will over to a higher power. A decision as mentioned in the step means a conscious and deliberate choice. Not a passive acceptance but an active commitment to a new way of living. This decision sets the stage for the actions that will follow in the next steps. Why Step 3 is Important Step 3 is a turning point in the AA journey. It moves us from admission and acceptance (Steps 1 & 2) to action. This is important for several reasons. Psychologically this “letting go” can be incredibly freeing. The weight of trying to control the uncontrollable is lifted and often brings a sense of relief and peace. This doesn’t mean we abdicate responsibility for our actions but rather we recognize there are forces beyond our control and learn to work with them, not against them. In short, Step Three is about hope and trust. It’s a step away from the hopelessness and unmanageability of active addiction towards a life guided by principles bigger than ourselves. Misconceptions about Step 3 Despite its importance in the Step-based recovery process, this one is often misunderstood by those new to AA and by outsiders. We need to clear up these misconceptions to understand this step properly. Trying to control everything can lead to fear and stunts personal growth. We need to step out of our own way to allow for change and growth in our recovery and surrender to a higher power to find some form of spirituality in recovery. Note that this does not have to be within a formal religious practice whatsoever. Finally, there’s a misconception that Step 3 is just about not drinking. While sobriety is part of it, the step is actually about a bigger change in how we approach life. It’s about a new way of dealing with challenges, relationships, and personal growth that goes way beyond not drinking. Before You Start the Step 3 Worksheet Before you start the Step 3 worksheet you need to prepare mentally, emotionally, and environmentally. This will help you get the most out of the exercise and set you up for success in your ongoing recovery work. The Serenity Prayer can be a useful tool for this process, helps us accept our current situation and focus on making good decisions while turning our will over to a Higher Power. If you’re feeling really stressed or overwhelmed you might want to do some relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation before you start the worksheet. As for materials you’ll need the worksheet itself which we’ll provide in a downloadable PDF. You might also want to have a separate journal or notebook for extra thoughts and reflections that come up during the process. Some people like to have supportive literature on hand like the AA Big Book or Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. Step 3 Worksheet Guide The Step 3 worksheet is designed to walk you through understanding, accepting, and implementing this step in your recovery. It’s divided into 4 main sections each covering a part of Step 3. Our AA Step Three Worksheet By doing this AA Step 3 worksheet you’ll find a new path in your recovery journey and learn to surrender control to a higher power. To accompany the worksheet, we believe the Third Step Prayer can be helpful, though feel free to rephrase the God language to accommodate your own beliefs. God, I offer myself to Thee-To build with meand to do with me as Thou wilt.Relieve me of the bondage of self,that I may better do Thy will.Take away my difficulties,that victory over them may bear witnessto those I would help of Thy Power,Thy Love, and Thy Way of life.May I do Thy will always!Amen pg 63, the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous Section 1: Your Higher Power This section asks you to explore and define your higher power. Remember this is personal and can be interpreted in many ways. The goal is to find a power greater than yourself that can guide and support you in your recovery and in living a sober life that is fulfilling and rich. The concept of 'love' as expressed in the spiritual framework of Alcoholics Anonymous can be a big part of that by helping you surrender to a higher power and align your actions with divine will. Start by thinking about what higher power means to you. Is it a traditional God? The collective wisdom of the AA group? The forces of nature? Your own sober self? There are no right or wrong answers here. Next, think about your relationship with this higher power. How do you communicate or connect with this power? What qualities does this power have that can support your recovery? How can turning to this power help in situations where you used to turn to alcohol? Section 2: Areas of Control This section helps you identify areas of your life that you’ve been trying to control, often to your own detriment. List the areas of your life where you’ve tried to control, especially in relation to your drinking. This might be relationships, work situations, others’ opinions of you, or your emotions. For each item on your list think about the outcomes of those control attempts. How did they work out? What were the costs - to your peace of mind, your relationships, your health? This will help you see the futility of trying to control everything and the benefits of “letting go”. Thinking about your own experience can also help you see where letting go of control could lead to personal growth and recovery. Section 3: Practicing Surrender Here you’ll do exercises to practice the principle of surrender in your daily life. This section includes “letting go” exercises like visualization or writing exercises. For example, you might visualize putting your worries or need for control into a balloon and releasing it into the sky. Recognizing “thy” power in this practice will help you offer yourself to a higher power and find relief from your personal struggles. You’ll also come up with affirmations to support your decision to turn your will and life over to your higher power. These might be statements like, “I trust in a power greater than myself to guide my recovery,” or “I choose to let go of what I cannot control.” Section 4: The Decision The final section of the worksheet is to solidify your commitment to Step Three. Here you’ll write your personal Step Three prayer or statement. This doesn’t have to be in any particular format - it’s a personal expression of your decision to turn your will and life over to your higher power. Remember to use the intention of “thou wilt” in some fashion in this decision, meaning a deep reliance on a higher power to guide your actions and decisions. You’ll also be asked to write about what this means to you. How will this change your approach to recovery and life in general? What can you do to support this decision in your daily life? By working through these sections honestly, you’ll better understand Step Three and how to apply it to your recovery. Remember this is a personal process and your answers will be your own. Not perfection but progress. A Few Of Our Favorite Step 3 Worksheet Tips When working through the Step Three worksheet remember: First and foremost honesty is key. The worksheet is a tool for self-discovery and growth and its value is in your willingness to be honest with yourself. You don’t have to share your answers with anyone else if you don’t want to but being honest in your personal reflection is necessary for progress in your recovery. Take your time with each section. This isn’t a sprint and there’s no prize for finishing first. Some parts of the worksheet may be hard or bring up emotions. It’s okay to take a break if you need to or spend several days working through the whole worksheet. The goal is thorough self-examination and understanding, not speed. Done properly this work will prove the power of spirituality in recovery. If you get stuck or struggle with a section don’t hesitate to get support. This might mean talking to your sponsor, sharing in an AA meeting, or talking to a trusted friend in recovery. Sometimes hearing others' experiences with Step Three can give you valuable insight or a new perspective. Finally, remember this is a personal process. Your answers and experiences will be your own. There’s no right or wrong way to do the worksheet as long as you’re being honest and putting in the effort. After the Worksheet (Add 3rd step prayer) One way to support your Step Three work is to review your worksheet regularly, weekly to start, and then monthly as you get more comfortable with the principles. This will help you stay connected to your decision to turn your will and life over to your higher power. Share your worksheet with your AA group or sponsor. This will not only support your own commitment but also help others who are working on this step. Step Three isn’t about being perfect in surrender. You’ll likely find yourself trying to take back control. When that happens just remind yourself of your Step Three commitment and recommit to turning it over to your higher power. As you continue on your recovery journey the lessons of Step Three will apply. The willingness to surrender and trust in a higher power will serve you well as you do your personal inventory in Step Four, make amends in Steps Eight and Nine, and work on your spiritual condition in Steps Ten, Eleven, and Twelve. Turn to SOBRLIFE for the Latest Recovery Content We hope that at this point you can confidently say, along with a sponsor, that you have completed Step Three! Be proud of yourself and know this is a major accomplishment in the path to staying clean and sober. Having done the Steps, or otherwise achieving sobriety that is stable and rewarding, we hope you will join us at SOBRLIFE in embracing the 'recover out loud' movement! We seek to show the world our strength and resilience, and that recovering people are everywhere, in order to make it clear that there is hope for those still struggling with active addictions. 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Getting Started with Step 3 and Diving Into Action Since 1935, Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) has been a lifeline for millions of people struggling with alcoholism. At the heart of AA’s program are the 12 Steps, a set of principles to help us get sober and live a happy, sober life. Among those steps, Step 3 is a big one, a turning point in the journey. Step 3 asks us to make a conscious decision to turn our will and lives over to the care of a higher power, as we understand it. This step is key because it bridges the gap between acknowledging our powerlessness over alcohol (Steps 1 & 2) and taking action towards recovery (Steps 4-12). Half measures don’t work here; full commitment to spiritual growth and the 12 step process is required for real progress. In this new SOBRLIFE resource, we’ll dive into Step 3, what it means and how to work through it with the help of our AA Step Three worksheet. Whether you’re new to AA or looking to go deeper into the program, this guide will give you valuable information and practical tools for your journey to sobriety. What is Step 3? Step 3 of AA says: “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to God as we understood Him.” This step seems simple but has many layers for those in recovery. At its heart, the Third Step is about surrender as a path to a better life. It acknowledges that we can’t manage our addiction through willpower alone. Instead it suggests a complete 180: we turn our lives and will over to a higher power. A decision as mentioned in the step means a conscious and deliberate choice. Not a passive acceptance but an active commitment to a new way of living. This decision sets the stage for the actions that will follow in the next steps. Why Step 3 is Important Step 3 is a turning point in the AA journey. It moves us from admission and acceptance (Steps 1 & 2) to action. This is important for several reasons. Psychologically this “letting go” can be incredibly freeing. The weight of trying to control the uncontrollable is lifted and often brings a sense of relief and peace. This doesn’t mean we abdicate responsibility for our actions but rather we recognize there are forces beyond our control and learn to work with them, not against them. In short, Step Three is about hope and trust. It’s a step away from the hopelessness and unmanageability of active addiction towards a life guided by principles bigger than ourselves. Misconceptions about Step 3 Despite its importance in the Step-based recovery process, this one is often misunderstood by those new to AA and by outsiders. We need to clear up these misconceptions to understand this step properly. Trying to control everything can lead to fear and stunts personal growth. We need to step out of our own way to allow for change and growth in our recovery and surrender to a higher power to find some form of spirituality in recovery. Note that this does not have to be within a formal religious practice whatsoever. Finally, there’s a misconception that Step 3 is just about not drinking. While sobriety is part of it, the step is actually about a bigger change in how we approach life. It’s about a new way of dealing with challenges, relationships, and personal growth that goes way beyond not drinking. Before You Start the Step 3 Worksheet Before you start the Step 3 worksheet you need to prepare mentally, emotionally, and environmentally. This will help you get the most out of the exercise and set you up for success in your ongoing recovery work. The Serenity Prayer can be a useful tool for this process, helps us accept our current situation and focus on making good decisions while turning our will over to a Higher Power. If you’re feeling really stressed or overwhelmed you might want to do some relaxation techniques like deep breathing or meditation before you start the worksheet. As for materials you’ll need the worksheet itself which we’ll provide in a downloadable PDF. You might also want to have a separate journal or notebook for extra thoughts and reflections that come up during the process. Some people like to have supportive literature on hand like the AA Big Book or Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions. Step 3 Worksheet Guide The Step 3 worksheet is designed to walk you through understanding, accepting, and implementing this step in your recovery. It’s divided into 4 main sections each covering a part of Step 3. Our AA Step Three Worksheet By doing this AA Step 3 worksheet you’ll find a new path in your recovery journey and learn to surrender control to a higher power. To accompany the worksheet, we believe the Third Step Prayer can be helpful, though feel free to rephrase the God language to accommodate your own beliefs. God, I offer myself to Thee-To build with meand to do with me as Thou wilt.Relieve me of the bondage of self,that I may better do Thy will.Take away my difficulties,that victory over them may bear witnessto those I would help of Thy Power,Thy Love, and Thy Way of life.May I do Thy will always!Amen pg 63, the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous Section 1: Your Higher Power This section asks you to explore and define your higher power. Remember this is personal and can be interpreted in many ways. The goal is to find a power greater than yourself that can guide and support you in your recovery and in living a sober life that is fulfilling and rich. The concept of 'love' as expressed in the spiritual framework of Alcoholics Anonymous can be a big part of that by helping you surrender to a higher power and align your actions with divine will. Start by thinking about what higher power means to you. Is it a traditional God? The collective wisdom of the AA group? The forces of nature? Your own sober self? There are no right or wrong answers here. Next, think about your relationship with this higher power. How do you communicate or connect with this power? What qualities does this power have that can support your recovery? How can turning to this power help in situations where you used to turn to alcohol? Section 2: Areas of Control This section helps you identify areas of your life that you’ve been trying to control, often to your own detriment. List the areas of your life where you’ve tried to control, especially in relation to your drinking. This might be relationships, work situations, others’ opinions of you, or your emotions. For each item on your list think about the outcomes of those control attempts. How did they work out? What were the costs - to your peace of mind, your relationships, your health? This will help you see the futility of trying to control everything and the benefits of “letting go”. Thinking about your own experience can also help you see where letting go of control could lead to personal growth and recovery. Section 3: Practicing Surrender Here you’ll do exercises to practice the principle of surrender in your daily life. This section includes “letting go” exercises like visualization or writing exercises. For example, you might visualize putting your worries or need for control into a balloon and releasing it into the sky. Recognizing “thy” power in this practice will help you offer yourself to a higher power and find relief from your personal struggles. You’ll also come up with affirmations to support your decision to turn your will and life over to your higher power. These might be statements like, “I trust in a power greater than myself to guide my recovery,” or “I choose to let go of what I cannot control.” Section 4: The Decision The final section of the worksheet is to solidify your commitment to Step Three. Here you’ll write your personal Step Three prayer or statement. This doesn’t have to be in any particular format - it’s a personal expression of your decision to turn your will and life over to your higher power. Remember to use the intention of “thou wilt” in some fashion in this decision, meaning a deep reliance on a higher power to guide your actions and decisions. You’ll also be asked to write about what this means to you. How will this change your approach to recovery and life in general? What can you do to support this decision in your daily life? By working through these sections honestly, you’ll better understand Step Three and how to apply it to your recovery. Remember this is a personal process and your answers will be your own. Not perfection but progress. A Few Of Our Favorite Step 3 Worksheet Tips When working through the Step Three worksheet remember: First and foremost honesty is key. The worksheet is a tool for self-discovery and growth and its value is in your willingness to be honest with yourself. You don’t have to share your answers with anyone else if you don’t want to but being honest in your personal reflection is necessary for progress in your recovery. Take your time with each section. This isn’t a sprint and there’s no prize for finishing first. Some parts of the worksheet may be hard or bring up emotions. It’s okay to take a break if you need to or spend several days working through the whole worksheet. The goal is thorough self-examination and understanding, not speed. Done properly this work will prove the power of spirituality in recovery. If you get stuck or struggle with a section don’t hesitate to get support. This might mean talking to your sponsor, sharing in an AA meeting, or talking to a trusted friend in recovery. Sometimes hearing others' experiences with Step Three can give you valuable insight or a new perspective. Finally, remember this is a personal process. Your answers and experiences will be your own. There’s no right or wrong way to do the worksheet as long as you’re being honest and putting in the effort. After the Worksheet (Add 3rd step prayer) One way to support your Step Three work is to review your worksheet regularly, weekly to start, and then monthly as you get more comfortable with the principles. This will help you stay connected to your decision to turn your will and life over to your higher power. Share your worksheet with your AA group or sponsor. This will not only support your own commitment but also help others who are working on this step. Step Three isn’t about being perfect in surrender. You’ll likely find yourself trying to take back control. When that happens just remind yourself of your Step Three commitment and recommit to turning it over to your higher power. As you continue on your recovery journey the lessons of Step Three will apply. The willingness to surrender and trust in a higher power will serve you well as you do your personal inventory in Step Four, make amends in Steps Eight and Nine, and work on your spiritual condition in Steps Ten, Eleven, and Twelve. Turn to SOBRLIFE for the Latest Recovery Content We hope that at this point you can confidently say, along with a sponsor, that you have completed Step Three! Be proud of yourself and know this is a major accomplishment in the path to staying clean and sober. Having done the Steps, or otherwise achieving sobriety that is stable and rewarding, we hope you will join us at SOBRLIFE in embracing the 'recover out loud' movement! We seek to show the world our strength and resilience, and that recovering people are everywhere, in order to make it clear that there is hope for those still struggling with active addictions. Keep an eye on SOBRLIFE.com for the latest in resources related to recovery, and for fresh and clean styles and our new SOBR WATER, all ways to show you are proud to live the sober life!
Using Motivational Interviewing to Overcome Trauma Disorders The behavioral health field, particularly in terms of addiction treatment, is always looking for new ways to help people truly understand and embrace recovery, both as a concept and daily practice. One of the latest is Trauma Based Motivational Interviewing (TBMI), which is particularly beneficial for behavioral health clinicians through professional training and development. This powerful combination of two proven therapies is a more comprehensive and effective approach. Integrating insights from adverse childhood experiences and trauma-informed care into clinical practice can enhance the effectiveness of TBMI, making it more effective in addressing the needs of trauma survivors. Let’s get into what TBMI is, how it works, and why it’s a must-have in addiction recovery. Keep reading our SOBRLIFE resource on a crucial topic, as we break down this newest wave of techniques designed to help complex clients and health care providers reach the goals needed in recovery. What is Trauma Informed Motivational Interviewing? TBMI is a combination of two evidence based practices: Trauma-Informed Care and Motivational Interviewing. TBMI helps facilitate changes in health behavior by addressing past trauma, recognizing how previous traumatic experiences shape clients' actions and decisions, and using motivational interviewing to engage clients in adopting healthier behaviors. To understand TBMI we need to break down these components: Trauma-Informed Care Trauma-Informed Care is an approach that acknowledges the prevalence of trauma and the paths to recovery. It acknowledges the signs and symptoms of trauma in clients, families, and staff and responds by fully integrating knowledge about trauma into policies, procedures, and practices. Creating safe environments for trauma survivors is crucial to enhance patient engagement and resilience through understanding and support. In a nutshell, it’s about asking “What happened to you?” instead of “What’s wrong with you?” Motivational Interviewing Motivational Interviewing is a counseling method that helps people resolve ambivalence and insecurity to find the internal motivation to change their behavior. It’s a practical, empathetic and short term process that acknowledges how hard it is to make changes in life. Motivational Interviewing promotes health behavior change by supporting self-efficacy, helping clients build confidence in their ability to make health-related decisions. Combining these approaches, TBMI creates a safe, empathetic space where clients can explore their traumatic experiences and find motivation for change and recovery. How TBMI Works TBMI operates on several key principles: Safety First: Creating a physically and emotionally safe space is key. This allows clients to feel safe enough to explore their trauma and addiction issues. Empathy and Understanding: Practitioners approach clients with genuine curiosity and empathy, not judgment. Collaboration: The therapist and client work together in the recovery process, not the therapist as expert. Empowerment: TBMI helps clients identify their strengths and resources to make positive changes in their life. Choice: Clients are given choices throughout the treatment process to restore a sense of control that may have been lost due to trauma or addiction. Cultural Sensitivity: TBMI recognizes that cultural factors play a big role in how people experience and respond to trauma and addiction. Training: It is crucial to train health care practitioners in TBMI to effectively address the needs of underserved populations and improve therapeutic relationships, particularly in trauma-informed care settings. In practice, a TBMI session might look like: Exploring the client’s trauma history in a safe and controlled way How trauma is related to substance use Identifying the client’s values and how they align (or not) with their current behavior Creating discrepancy between the client’s goals and their current situation Exploring the pros and cons of staying the same versus changing Building confidence in the client’s ability to make positive changes The role of motivational interviewing competency assessment is also vital in enhancing practitioners' skills in TBMI, ensuring they are well-equipped to support clients in various fields such as healthcare, criminal justice, and social services. The Benefits of Practicing TBMI TBMI has several advantages over traditional approaches: Addresses Root Causes: By exploring trauma, TBMI helps clients understand the underlying reasons for their substance use, not just the symptoms. Additionally, TBMI empowers clients to adopt positive health behaviors by understanding the psychological and social factors influencing their health decisions. Reduces Resistance: The non-confrontational, empathetic approach of TBMI can reduce client resistance to treatment. Increases Engagement: By involving clients in their own recovery, TBMI can improve treatment engagement and retention. Promotes Lasting Change: By building internal motivation, TBMI can lead to more long-term changes in behavior. Prevents Re-traumatization: The trauma-informed approach ensures the treatment process itself doesn’t cause additional harm or trauma. It also acknowledges the relationship between trauma and substance abuse, providing access to comprehensive resources, including substance abuse groups, to support individuals dealing with these challenges. Challenges and Considerations While TBMI is a great tool it’s not without its challenges: Training: Practitioners need training in trauma informed care and motivational interviewing. Specialized training for mental health clinicians is essential to enhance their skills and effectiveness in diverse settings, including healthcare and criminal justice. Time: TBMI can take more time than other approaches especially in the early stages. Emotional Intensity: Working with trauma can be emotionally challenging for both clients and practitioners. Complexity: Balancing trauma work with motivational interviewing requires skill and experience. Despite these challenges, many practitioners find the benefits of TBMI far outweigh the difficulties and get better outcomes for clients with trauma and addiction. Advanced studies in industrial and labor relations are also relevant for professionals in TBMI, as they equip individuals with the necessary skills to facilitate training and workshops in various health and justice sectors. The “Recover Out Loud” Movement: Getting Motivated! Now let’s shift our focus to a powerful and perhaps equally motivational trend in the recovery community: the “Recover Out Loud” movement. This grassroots movement encourages people in recovery to share their stories out loud and proud and break down the stigma. The reasons behind the “Recover Out Loud” movement are: Breaking Stigma: By talking about recovery people help to normalize conversations about addiction and mental health and reduce societal stigma. Hope: Personal stories of recovery can give hope to those still struggling with addiction. Community: Sharing experiences creates a sense of connection and community among those in recovery. Public Education: First hand accounts educate the general public about addiction and recovery. Empowerment: Speaking out can be empowering for people in recovery and reinforce their own commitment to sobriety. SOBRLIFE: Leading the Way in Recovery Advocacy At the forefront of the “Recover Out Loud” movement is SOBRLIFE, an organization that supports people in recovery and a sober lifestyle. SOBRLIFE is making waves with its approach to recovery advocacy and community building. One of SOBRLIFE’s main initiatives is sponsoring events that celebrate recovery and sober living. These events serve several purposes: Sober Social Spaces: SOBRLIFE events create fun and engaging environments where people can socialize without alcohol or drugs. Community Building: These events help build connections among people in recovery and create a support network. Public Awareness: By hosting public events SOBRLIFE increases the visibility of the recovery community and educates the public. Healthy Lifestyles: Many SOBRLIFE events include wellness activities and reinforce the idea that recovery is about overall health and wellbeing. SOBRLIFE has been most active in two locations: New York City: In the middle of one of the world’s busiest cities SOBRLIFE has sponsored an event recently that brought the recovery community together. By creating sober spaces in a city famous for its nightlife SOBRLIFE is changing perceptions and providing support for those in recovery. Delray Beach, Florida: As SOBRLIFE’s hometown Delray Beach has been a hotbed of activity. Known as the “recovery capital of America” Delray Beach is the perfect place for SOBRLIFE’s mission. SOBRLIFE has sponsored a recent July 4th water giveaway and community education events. These initiatives support people in recovery give back to the community and show the positive impact of sober living. SOBRLIFE is showing that recovery isn’t just about not using substances – it’s about living a full and joyful life and being part of a community. Get Motivated With Us in the SOBRLIFE As we’ve seen in this article Trauma Based Motivational Interviewing is changing the way we treat addiction and recovery. By addressing trauma and building intrinsic motivation for change TBMI is a powerful tool for healing and growth. And the “Recover Out Loud” movement and organizations like SOBRLIFE are changing the face of recovery and helping motivate those struggling with substances of all kinds to get clean and sober. Whatever the method, the recovery movement is changing. As we keep innovating and busting myths we get closer to a world where everyone with addiction can get the support and resources they need to recover. We hope you choose to join us in living the SOBRLIFE and keep coming back for the latest resources, apparel, and opportunities we offer!
Using Motivational Interviewing to Overcome Trauma Disorders The behavioral health field, particularly in terms of addiction treatment, is always looking for new ways to help people truly understand and embrace recovery, both as a concept and daily practice. One of the latest is Trauma Based Motivational Interviewing (TBMI), which is particularly beneficial for behavioral health clinicians through professional training and development. This powerful combination of two proven therapies is a more comprehensive and effective approach. Integrating insights from adverse childhood experiences and trauma-informed care into clinical practice can enhance the effectiveness of TBMI, making it more effective in addressing the needs of trauma survivors. Let’s get into what TBMI is, how it works, and why it’s a must-have in addiction recovery. Keep reading our SOBRLIFE resource on a crucial topic, as we break down this newest wave of techniques designed to help complex clients and health care providers reach the goals needed in recovery. What is Trauma Informed Motivational Interviewing? TBMI is a combination of two evidence based practices: Trauma-Informed Care and Motivational Interviewing. TBMI helps facilitate changes in health behavior by addressing past trauma, recognizing how previous traumatic experiences shape clients' actions and decisions, and using motivational interviewing to engage clients in adopting healthier behaviors. To understand TBMI we need to break down these components: Trauma-Informed Care Trauma-Informed Care is an approach that acknowledges the prevalence of trauma and the paths to recovery. It acknowledges the signs and symptoms of trauma in clients, families, and staff and responds by fully integrating knowledge about trauma into policies, procedures, and practices. Creating safe environments for trauma survivors is crucial to enhance patient engagement and resilience through understanding and support. In a nutshell, it’s about asking “What happened to you?” instead of “What’s wrong with you?” Motivational Interviewing Motivational Interviewing is a counseling method that helps people resolve ambivalence and insecurity to find the internal motivation to change their behavior. It’s a practical, empathetic and short term process that acknowledges how hard it is to make changes in life. Motivational Interviewing promotes health behavior change by supporting self-efficacy, helping clients build confidence in their ability to make health-related decisions. Combining these approaches, TBMI creates a safe, empathetic space where clients can explore their traumatic experiences and find motivation for change and recovery. How TBMI Works TBMI operates on several key principles: Safety First: Creating a physically and emotionally safe space is key. This allows clients to feel safe enough to explore their trauma and addiction issues. Empathy and Understanding: Practitioners approach clients with genuine curiosity and empathy, not judgment. Collaboration: The therapist and client work together in the recovery process, not the therapist as expert. Empowerment: TBMI helps clients identify their strengths and resources to make positive changes in their life. Choice: Clients are given choices throughout the treatment process to restore a sense of control that may have been lost due to trauma or addiction. Cultural Sensitivity: TBMI recognizes that cultural factors play a big role in how people experience and respond to trauma and addiction. Training: It is crucial to train health care practitioners in TBMI to effectively address the needs of underserved populations and improve therapeutic relationships, particularly in trauma-informed care settings. In practice, a TBMI session might look like: Exploring the client’s trauma history in a safe and controlled way How trauma is related to substance use Identifying the client’s values and how they align (or not) with their current behavior Creating discrepancy between the client’s goals and their current situation Exploring the pros and cons of staying the same versus changing Building confidence in the client’s ability to make positive changes The role of motivational interviewing competency assessment is also vital in enhancing practitioners' skills in TBMI, ensuring they are well-equipped to support clients in various fields such as healthcare, criminal justice, and social services. The Benefits of Practicing TBMI TBMI has several advantages over traditional approaches: Addresses Root Causes: By exploring trauma, TBMI helps clients understand the underlying reasons for their substance use, not just the symptoms. Additionally, TBMI empowers clients to adopt positive health behaviors by understanding the psychological and social factors influencing their health decisions. Reduces Resistance: The non-confrontational, empathetic approach of TBMI can reduce client resistance to treatment. Increases Engagement: By involving clients in their own recovery, TBMI can improve treatment engagement and retention. Promotes Lasting Change: By building internal motivation, TBMI can lead to more long-term changes in behavior. Prevents Re-traumatization: The trauma-informed approach ensures the treatment process itself doesn’t cause additional harm or trauma. It also acknowledges the relationship between trauma and substance abuse, providing access to comprehensive resources, including substance abuse groups, to support individuals dealing with these challenges. Challenges and Considerations While TBMI is a great tool it’s not without its challenges: Training: Practitioners need training in trauma informed care and motivational interviewing. Specialized training for mental health clinicians is essential to enhance their skills and effectiveness in diverse settings, including healthcare and criminal justice. Time: TBMI can take more time than other approaches especially in the early stages. Emotional Intensity: Working with trauma can be emotionally challenging for both clients and practitioners. Complexity: Balancing trauma work with motivational interviewing requires skill and experience. Despite these challenges, many practitioners find the benefits of TBMI far outweigh the difficulties and get better outcomes for clients with trauma and addiction. Advanced studies in industrial and labor relations are also relevant for professionals in TBMI, as they equip individuals with the necessary skills to facilitate training and workshops in various health and justice sectors. The “Recover Out Loud” Movement: Getting Motivated! Now let’s shift our focus to a powerful and perhaps equally motivational trend in the recovery community: the “Recover Out Loud” movement. This grassroots movement encourages people in recovery to share their stories out loud and proud and break down the stigma. The reasons behind the “Recover Out Loud” movement are: Breaking Stigma: By talking about recovery people help to normalize conversations about addiction and mental health and reduce societal stigma. Hope: Personal stories of recovery can give hope to those still struggling with addiction. Community: Sharing experiences creates a sense of connection and community among those in recovery. Public Education: First hand accounts educate the general public about addiction and recovery. Empowerment: Speaking out can be empowering for people in recovery and reinforce their own commitment to sobriety. SOBRLIFE: Leading the Way in Recovery Advocacy At the forefront of the “Recover Out Loud” movement is SOBRLIFE, an organization that supports people in recovery and a sober lifestyle. SOBRLIFE is making waves with its approach to recovery advocacy and community building. One of SOBRLIFE’s main initiatives is sponsoring events that celebrate recovery and sober living. These events serve several purposes: Sober Social Spaces: SOBRLIFE events create fun and engaging environments where people can socialize without alcohol or drugs. Community Building: These events help build connections among people in recovery and create a support network. Public Awareness: By hosting public events SOBRLIFE increases the visibility of the recovery community and educates the public. Healthy Lifestyles: Many SOBRLIFE events include wellness activities and reinforce the idea that recovery is about overall health and wellbeing. SOBRLIFE has been most active in two locations: New York City: In the middle of one of the world’s busiest cities SOBRLIFE has sponsored an event recently that brought the recovery community together. By creating sober spaces in a city famous for its nightlife SOBRLIFE is changing perceptions and providing support for those in recovery. Delray Beach, Florida: As SOBRLIFE’s hometown Delray Beach has been a hotbed of activity. Known as the “recovery capital of America” Delray Beach is the perfect place for SOBRLIFE’s mission. SOBRLIFE has sponsored a recent July 4th water giveaway and community education events. These initiatives support people in recovery give back to the community and show the positive impact of sober living. SOBRLIFE is showing that recovery isn’t just about not using substances – it’s about living a full and joyful life and being part of a community. Get Motivated With Us in the SOBRLIFE As we’ve seen in this article Trauma Based Motivational Interviewing is changing the way we treat addiction and recovery. By addressing trauma and building intrinsic motivation for change TBMI is a powerful tool for healing and growth. And the “Recover Out Loud” movement and organizations like SOBRLIFE are changing the face of recovery and helping motivate those struggling with substances of all kinds to get clean and sober. Whatever the method, the recovery movement is changing. As we keep innovating and busting myths we get closer to a world where everyone with addiction can get the support and resources they need to recover. We hope you choose to join us in living the SOBRLIFE and keep coming back for the latest resources, apparel, and opportunities we offer!
Minimizing the Mind Altering Effects of Cold Medications When you’re in recovery from addiction, even a simple cold can present unexpected challenges. Finding safe cold medicines that won’t jeopardize your sobriety is crucial, but it can feel like navigating a minefield. At SOBRLIFE, we understand the importance of maintaining your recovery while managing common illnesses. That’s why we’re tackling this essential topic head-on. For many in recovery, the prospect of taking any medication can be daunting. Is there such a thing as a safe cold medicine for recovering addicts? The fear of relapse or accidentally consuming something that could trigger cravings is real and valid. Many common medications, including antihistamines and psychiatric drugs, can be mood altering and potentially lead to cravings or relapses. But don’t worry – you’re not alone in this decision. We’re here to provide you with the information and support you need to make informed decisions about managing cold symptoms safely in recovery. Understanding the Risks of the Wrong Cold Medication Before we dive into safe options, it’s crucial to understand why some common cold medicines can be problematic for those in recovery. Many over-the-counter cold remedies contain ingredients that can pose risks to your sobriety. Alcohol is perhaps the most obvious concern. It’s a common ingredient in liquid cold medicines and can be a direct threat to those recovering from alcohol addiction. Even small amounts can potentially trigger cravings or lead to relapse. Past alcohol abuse can influence current treatment decisions, potentially leading to relapse if certain medications are used. Pseudoephedrine, a decongestant found in many cold and allergy medications, is another ingredient to watch out for. While it’s effective for relieving congestion, it’s also a precursor chemical used in the production of methamphetamine. For this reason, it’s often kept behind the pharmacy counter and can be a trigger for those with a history of stimulant addiction. Pseudoephedrine can also impact the central nervous system, raising concerns about drug dependency and withdrawal symptoms. Dextromethorphan, commonly known as DXM, is a cough suppressant found in many cold medicines. In high doses, it can produce euphoric effects and has a potential for abuse. For recovering addicts, particularly those with a history of DXM abuse, medicines containing this ingredient should be avoided. OTC cold medications containing such ingredients can mimic the effects of addictive substances and trigger cravings, highlighting the need for caution among sensitive populations. The risk isn’t just about these specific ingredients triggering a relapse to your primary addiction. There’s also the concern of cross-addiction – where you might develop a new addiction to a substance that wasn’t previously problematic for you. This is why it’s crucial to approach all medications with caution in recovery. What are Safe OTC Cold Medicine Options? Now that we’ve covered the risks, let’s explore some safe options for managing cold symptoms in recovery. Remember, always consult with your healthcare provider before starting any new medication or treatment regimen. Non-medicinal remedies are often your safest bet. Rest and proper hydration can go a long way in helping your body fight off a cold. Saltwater gargles can help soothe a sore throat, while steam inhalation can provide relief from congestion. These simple home remedies are not only effective but also completely safe for those in recovery. When it comes to over-the-counter options, acetaminophen (like Tylenol) is generally considered safe for pain and fever relief. Just be sure to stick to the recommended dosage and be aware that some formulations may contain additional ingredients. Saline nasal sprays can help clear congestion without the risks associated with medicated decongestants. They work by moisturizing the nasal passages and helping to flush out irritants. Natural Sore Throat Lozenges and Remedies For sore throats, non-medicated lozenges can provide relief without the risks associated with medicated versions. Look for simple ingredients like honey or menthol. Throat lozenges are also a safe option for soothing throat irritation. Natural remedies can also be effective and safe options. Honey has been shown to be as effective as dextromethorphan in suppressing coughs, particularly in children. Ginger can help with nausea, a common cold symptom, and echinacea may help support your immune system. Herbal supplements can offer benefits but come with potential risks, so use them cautiously. Remember, “natural” doesn’t always mean safe for everyone. Some herbal remedies can interact with medications or have their own risks. Always check with your healthcare provider before trying new treatments, especially if you’re taking other medications. By understanding the risks and exploring safe alternatives, you can effectively manage cold symptoms without jeopardizing your recovery. Always consult your healthcare provider about using a specific medication safely, especially if it is not listed among safe options. Reading Labels and Ingredient Awareness for Safe Medications When it comes to managing cold symptoms in recovery, knowledge truly is power. Being able to read and understand medication labels is a crucial skill that can help you make informed decisions about what’s safe for you to take. It's also important to be cautious with OTC medications, as some can mimic the effects of addictive drugs and potentially trigger cravings or relapse during recovery. Start by carefully scrutinizing the ingredient lists on any over-the-counter medications. Look out for the problematic ingredients we discussed earlier, like alcohol, pseudoephedrine, and dextromethorphan (DXM). Remember, these ingredients might be listed under different names. For instance, alcohol might be listed as ethanol, while pseudoephedrine could appear as PSE. If you’re taking other medications, including those for managing your recovery, be sure to check for potential interactions. Additionally, be aware of the risks associated with appetite suppressants, as many operate similarly to stimulants and can be harmful. Don’t hesitate to ask for help if you’re unsure about a label or ingredient. Pharmacists are excellent resources and can often provide guidance without needing a full medical consultation. Consulting Healthcare Professionals in Recovery While it’s wise to educate yourself about safe cold remedies, there’s no substitute for professional medical advice. Consulting with healthcare professionals is a crucial step in managing your health safely in recovery. Discussing your pain medication needs with your healthcare provider is essential to ensure safe and effective pain management. When you visit your doctor or pharmacist, be open about your recovery status. This information is vital for them to provide you with the most appropriate advice and treatment options. Healthcare providers are bound by confidentiality rules, so you can feel safe sharing this information. For instance, they might recommend a non-narcotic cough suppressant if you need something stronger than over-the-counter options. Additionally, when undergoing dental procedures, it is important to communicate your addiction history to avoid prescriptions for narcotics and to discuss the use of local anesthesia instead of opioids or nitrous oxide. Strategies for Managing Cold Symptoms in Substance Abuse Recovery Dealing with a cold while in recovery isn’t just about finding the right medicines. It’s also about implementing strategies to support both your physical health and your recovery. Building a strong support system is crucial, especially when you’re not feeling your best. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or your recovery support group. Let them know you’re under the weather and might need extra support. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to can make a world of difference when you’re feeling vulnerable. Be cautious with over-the-counter and prescription options that could cause adverse effects, as certain medications can lead to physical dependence, especially those in the opioid drug class. Stress Reduction and Maintaining Mental Health Mindfulness and stress-reduction techniques can be powerful tools for managing discomfort without turning to potentially problematic substances. Practices like deep breathing exercises, meditation, or gentle yoga can help alleviate some cold symptoms while also supporting your mental health. Managing severe pain is crucial to avoid relapse, as untreated pain can be a significant risk factor. Try to maintain your regular recovery routines as much as possible, even when you’re sick. If you usually attend support group meetings, consider participating virtually if you can’t make it in person. Keeping up with these routines can provide a sense of normalcy and stability during a challenging time. Remember, it’s okay to rest and take care of yourself. In fact, allowing yourself the time and space to recover fully can be an act of self-care that supports your overall health. Use this time to practice self-compassion and reinforce your commitment to your health and sobriety. The Role of Prevention in Overall Health As the old saying goes, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. This is particularly true when it comes to managing health in recovery. While we can’t always avoid catching a cold, there are steps we can take to reduce our susceptibility and minimize the impact when illness does strike. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is your first line of defense. Regular exercise, a balanced diet rich in fruits and vegetables, and adequate sleep all contribute to a strong immune system. These habits not only help ward off colds but also support your overall recovery journey. Additionally, finding safe pain relief options is crucial to avoid the risks associated with addictive substances, particularly opioids. Good hygiene practices are crucial in minimizing exposure to cold and flu viruses. Regular handwashing, avoiding touching your face, and keeping your living space clean can all help reduce your risk of catching a cold. If someone in your household is sick, take extra precautions to avoid spreading the illness. The Latest Resources for Recovery Live at SOBRLIFE Remember, there are many safe ways to treat cold symptoms without compromising your recovery. From simple home remedies like rest and hydration to carefully selected over-the-counter medications, you have options. The key is to stay informed, be vigilant about ingredients, and never hesitate to seek professional advice when you're unsure. At SOBRLIFE, we believe in your ability to overcome these challenges and continue growing in your recovery. Your health and your sobriety are worth protecting, even when facing something as common as a cold. Resources Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA): www.samhsa.gov National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA): www.drugabuse.gov American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM): www.asam.org
Minimizing the Mind Altering Effects of Cold Medications When you’re in recovery from addiction, even a simple cold can present unexpected challenges. Finding safe cold medicines that won’t jeopardize your sobriety is crucial, but it can feel like navigating a minefield. At SOBRLIFE, we understand the importance of maintaining your recovery while managing common illnesses. That’s why we’re tackling this essential topic head-on. For many in recovery, the prospect of taking any medication can be daunting. Is there such a thing as a safe cold medicine for recovering addicts? The fear of relapse or accidentally consuming something that could trigger cravings is real and valid. Many common medications, including antihistamines and psychiatric drugs, can be mood altering and potentially lead to cravings or relapses. But don’t worry – you’re not alone in this decision. We’re here to provide you with the information and support you need to make informed decisions about managing cold symptoms safely in recovery. Understanding the Risks of the Wrong Cold Medication Before we dive into safe options, it’s crucial to understand why some common cold medicines can be problematic for those in recovery. Many over-the-counter cold remedies contain ingredients that can pose risks to your sobriety. Alcohol is perhaps the most obvious concern. It’s a common ingredient in liquid cold medicines and can be a direct threat to those recovering from alcohol addiction. Even small amounts can potentially trigger cravings or lead to relapse. Past alcohol abuse can influence current treatment decisions, potentially leading to relapse if certain medications are used. Pseudoephedrine, a decongestant found in many cold and allergy medications, is another ingredient to watch out for. While it’s effective for relieving congestion, it’s also a precursor chemical used in the production of methamphetamine. For this reason, it’s often kept behind the pharmacy counter and can be a trigger for those with a history of stimulant addiction. Pseudoephedrine can also impact the central nervous system, raising concerns about drug dependency and withdrawal symptoms. Dextromethorphan, commonly known as DXM, is a cough suppressant found in many cold medicines. In high doses, it can produce euphoric effects and has a potential for abuse. For recovering addicts, particularly those with a history of DXM abuse, medicines containing this ingredient should be avoided. OTC cold medications containing such ingredients can mimic the effects of addictive substances and trigger cravings, highlighting the need for caution among sensitive populations. The risk isn’t just about these specific ingredients triggering a relapse to your primary addiction. There’s also the concern of cross-addiction – where you might develop a new addiction to a substance that wasn’t previously problematic for you. This is why it’s crucial to approach all medications with caution in recovery. What are Safe OTC Cold Medicine Options? Now that we’ve covered the risks, let’s explore some safe options for managing cold symptoms in recovery. Remember, always consult with your healthcare provider before starting any new medication or treatment regimen. Non-medicinal remedies are often your safest bet. Rest and proper hydration can go a long way in helping your body fight off a cold. Saltwater gargles can help soothe a sore throat, while steam inhalation can provide relief from congestion. These simple home remedies are not only effective but also completely safe for those in recovery. When it comes to over-the-counter options, acetaminophen (like Tylenol) is generally considered safe for pain and fever relief. Just be sure to stick to the recommended dosage and be aware that some formulations may contain additional ingredients. Saline nasal sprays can help clear congestion without the risks associated with medicated decongestants. They work by moisturizing the nasal passages and helping to flush out irritants. Natural Sore Throat Lozenges and Remedies For sore throats, non-medicated lozenges can provide relief without the risks associated with medicated versions. Look for simple ingredients like honey or menthol. Throat lozenges are also a safe option for soothing throat irritation. Natural remedies can also be effective and safe options. Honey has been shown to be as effective as dextromethorphan in suppressing coughs, particularly in children. Ginger can help with nausea, a common cold symptom, and echinacea may help support your immune system. Herbal supplements can offer benefits but come with potential risks, so use them cautiously. Remember, “natural” doesn’t always mean safe for everyone. Some herbal remedies can interact with medications or have their own risks. Always check with your healthcare provider before trying new treatments, especially if you’re taking other medications. By understanding the risks and exploring safe alternatives, you can effectively manage cold symptoms without jeopardizing your recovery. Always consult your healthcare provider about using a specific medication safely, especially if it is not listed among safe options. Reading Labels and Ingredient Awareness for Safe Medications When it comes to managing cold symptoms in recovery, knowledge truly is power. Being able to read and understand medication labels is a crucial skill that can help you make informed decisions about what’s safe for you to take. It's also important to be cautious with OTC medications, as some can mimic the effects of addictive drugs and potentially trigger cravings or relapse during recovery. Start by carefully scrutinizing the ingredient lists on any over-the-counter medications. Look out for the problematic ingredients we discussed earlier, like alcohol, pseudoephedrine, and dextromethorphan (DXM). Remember, these ingredients might be listed under different names. For instance, alcohol might be listed as ethanol, while pseudoephedrine could appear as PSE. If you’re taking other medications, including those for managing your recovery, be sure to check for potential interactions. Additionally, be aware of the risks associated with appetite suppressants, as many operate similarly to stimulants and can be harmful. Don’t hesitate to ask for help if you’re unsure about a label or ingredient. Pharmacists are excellent resources and can often provide guidance without needing a full medical consultation. Consulting Healthcare Professionals in Recovery While it’s wise to educate yourself about safe cold remedies, there’s no substitute for professional medical advice. Consulting with healthcare professionals is a crucial step in managing your health safely in recovery. Discussing your pain medication needs with your healthcare provider is essential to ensure safe and effective pain management. When you visit your doctor or pharmacist, be open about your recovery status. This information is vital for them to provide you with the most appropriate advice and treatment options. Healthcare providers are bound by confidentiality rules, so you can feel safe sharing this information. For instance, they might recommend a non-narcotic cough suppressant if you need something stronger than over-the-counter options. Additionally, when undergoing dental procedures, it is important to communicate your addiction history to avoid prescriptions for narcotics and to discuss the use of local anesthesia instead of opioids or nitrous oxide. Strategies for Managing Cold Symptoms in Substance Abuse Recovery Dealing with a cold while in recovery isn’t just about finding the right medicines. It’s also about implementing strategies to support both your physical health and your recovery. Building a strong support system is crucial, especially when you’re not feeling your best. Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or your recovery support group. Let them know you’re under the weather and might need extra support. Sometimes, just having someone to talk to can make a world of difference when you’re feeling vulnerable. Be cautious with over-the-counter and prescription options that could cause adverse effects, as certain medications can lead to physical dependence, especially those in the opioid drug class. Stress Reduction and Maintaining Mental Health Mindfulness and stress-reduction techniques can be powerful tools for managing discomfort without turning to potentially problematic substances. Practices like deep breathing exercises, meditation, or gentle yoga can help alleviate some cold symptoms while also supporting your mental health. Managing severe pain is crucial to avoid relapse, as untreated pain can be a significant risk factor. Try to maintain your regular recovery routines as much as possible, even when you’re sick. If you usually attend support group meetings, consider participating virtually if you can’t make it in person. Keeping up with these routines can provide a sense of normalcy and stability during a challenging time. Remember, it’s okay to rest and take care of yourself. In fact, allowing yourself the time and space to recover fully can be an act of self-care that supports your overall health. Use this time to practice self-compassion and reinforce your commitment to your health and sobriety. The Role of Prevention in Overall Health As the old saying goes, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. This is particularly true when it comes to managing health in recovery. While we can’t always avoid catching a cold, there are steps we can take to reduce our susceptibility and minimize the impact when illness does strike. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is your first line of defense. Regular exercise, a balanced diet rich in fruits and vegetables, and adequate sleep all contribute to a strong immune system. These habits not only help ward off colds but also support your overall recovery journey. Additionally, finding safe pain relief options is crucial to avoid the risks associated with addictive substances, particularly opioids. Good hygiene practices are crucial in minimizing exposure to cold and flu viruses. Regular handwashing, avoiding touching your face, and keeping your living space clean can all help reduce your risk of catching a cold. If someone in your household is sick, take extra precautions to avoid spreading the illness. The Latest Resources for Recovery Live at SOBRLIFE Remember, there are many safe ways to treat cold symptoms without compromising your recovery. From simple home remedies like rest and hydration to carefully selected over-the-counter medications, you have options. The key is to stay informed, be vigilant about ingredients, and never hesitate to seek professional advice when you're unsure. At SOBRLIFE, we believe in your ability to overcome these challenges and continue growing in your recovery. Your health and your sobriety are worth protecting, even when facing something as common as a cold. Resources Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA): www.samhsa.gov National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA): www.drugabuse.gov American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM): www.asam.org